Sensory-Friendly Holidays: A Guide for Families

Why are the holidays hard for sensory-sensitive and autistic children?

The holidays stack up the things many autistic and sensory-sensitive children find hardest: changes to routine, noise, bright and flashing lights, crowds, unfamiliar food and clothes, and travel. Distress at small changes, a need for set routines and unusual reactions to sounds, smells, tastes, sights or textures are recognized signs of autism, and sensory difficulties are common in ADHD, coordination disorders and anxiety too.⁠^7,16

For some autistic children, loud sounds cause real discomfort, while bright lights that bother others may fascinate them.⁠¹⁷ Add packed schedules, missed naps and sugary snacks, and the AAP notes that mood swings get more intense and young children can tip into overstimulation and meltdowns.⁠¹

How do you plan a sensory-friendly holiday season?

Plan fewer events, protect the routines that hold your child’s day together, and decide in advance how each outing ends. The AAP suggests choosing the events you can reasonably handle and declining the rest without guilt, and keeping small anchors like the same bedtime story.⁠¹

1. List the season. Write down every event from Halloween to the first school day, then cross off what you can skip.⁠¹
2. Pick the anchors. Keep wake-up, meals and bedtime close to school-day times; young children do best with predictability and structure.⁠⁸
3. Show the plan. Put the week on a visual schedule and preview each new place or event.⁠²
4. Plan the exits. Agree on a signal, a quiet space and a time to leave before you go.
5. Leave recovery days. Follow a big day with a quiet one at home, so the next event does not start on an empty tank.

Do visual schedules and social stories help over the holidays?

Yes, for many autistic children: both are evidence-based practices. A review of 972 studies found 28 evidence-based practices for autistic children and youth, including visual supports such as picture schedules, social narratives that describe a situation and what to expect, and changes made before an activity to prevent distress.⁠² The review covers everyday use rather than holidays, but a holiday is the kind of unfamiliar sequence these tools are used to preview.⁠²

How can you make family gatherings easier for a sensory-sensitive child?

Give your child a quiet room, protect their ears, warn the hosts, and make leaving early a normal option. At noisy gatherings the AAP advises earmuffs for young children rather than earplugs, which can be a choking hazard, keeping children well away from speakers, and an early exit if a child is covering their ears or seems uncomfortable.⁠³

• A quiet room

  Ask the host in advance for a room your child can retreat to, with a favorite toy or headphones.

• Ear protection

  Earmuffs for young children, earplugs for teens; stay at least 500 feet from speakers.⁠³

• Arrive early

  Coming before the crowd lets a child settle in while the room is still quiet.

• Brief the relatives

  Tell them what helps, and that a hug or a gift opened in front of everyone is optional.

• A food they eat

  Bring at least one food your child likes, so the meal is not a battle.⁠⁴

• A planned exit

  Agree on the signal and the time; leaving early when a child is overwhelmed is part of the plan.⁠³

If a relative tends to comment on what your child eats or how they look, the AAP suggests talking with them before the event.⁠¹⁸

What should you do if your child has a meltdown at a holiday event?

Reduce what is coming in and give your child time: a meltdown is an intense response to an overwhelming situation, not a temper tantrum.⁠¹⁹ The National Autistic Society advises making a quiet, safe space, turning down loud music and bright lights, asking others not to stare, staying calm yourself and allowing more time than you might expect for a response.⁠¹⁹

Afterward, look at what built up beforehand, such as noise, hunger, a missed nap or too many people, and adjust the next event rather than the child.⁠^1,19

Read nextMeltdown or tantrum?How to calm sensory overloadCalm-down corners

How do you travel over the holidays with an autistic or sensory-sensitive child?

Preview the trip, pack for comfort, and ask for help where it is offered. The AAP suggests talking a child through what will happen on the way, including the airport security walkthrough and what the plane will feel and sound like, and planning car stops no more than an hour apart.⁠⁸

For air travel, TSA Cares can arrange a Passenger Support Specialist, an officer trained to help travelers with disabilities, including those who find instructions hard to follow, through security; contact it at least 72 hours before you fly, at (855) 787-2227 or through its online form, and many airlines, parks and other organizations offer accommodations to travelers with special needs.⁠^8,15 Headphones help keep electronic games quiet, and sipping a drink at takeoff may ease ear pain.⁠²⁰

What are good sensory-friendly gifts, and which are unsafe?

Choose for your child’s developmental age rather than the age on the box, favor toys you can play with together, and ask your child’s therapist for ideas; small changes such as foam or larger buttons can make a toy usable.⁠⁵ For a child who seeks sensation, think movement, deep pressure and things to squeeze or build; for a child who avoids it, think quiet, predictable, soft-textured gifts.

Which sensory gifts are unsafe?

• Water beads

  Sold as sensory tools for children with developmental disabilities, they grow up to 100 times their size in water, can be deadly if swallowed, and are linked to thousands of emergency visits a year.⁠¹⁰

• Button and coin batteries

  Swallowed, one can burn through a child’s throat in as little as two hours; check that battery doors screw shut.⁠¹²

• Loose high-powered magnets

  Two or more swallowed magnets attract inside the gut; many cases have needed surgery.⁠¹¹

• Small parts for young children

  Anything that fits the CPSC test cylinder, sized to the throat of a child under 3, is a choking hazard.⁠^5,21

• Some weighted blankets

  In 2022, about 204,000 of one brand’s children’s weighted blankets were recalled after two young girls became trapped in the cover and died.⁠¹³

• Very loud toys

  Noisy toys can damage hearing; tape over the speaker or remove the batteries.⁠^3,22

For wrapping, gift bags or loosely taped paper are easier for children who struggle with fine motor skills or with surprises, and some children do better seeing their gift before the day.

Gift ideasSensory toys and tools (DrParenting)Beyond sensory toys

How do you handle holiday meals and new foods with a picky or sensory eater?

Bring at least one food your child will eat, keep pressure off, and treat the meal as exposure rather than a test. The AAP suggests offering or bringing at least one food your child likes and letting children help prepare the meal.⁠⁴ Children can refuse a new food and be offered it again later; it can take 15 to 20 tries to like one.⁠¹⁴

For a child with avoidant restrictive food intake disorder (ARFID), who eats very little or only a few foods, the AAP suggests bringing a substitute safe meal to the feast, and warns that skipping meals before a big dinner can increase anxiety.⁠¹⁸ If your child’s diet is very narrow or their eating changes sharply, talk to your pediatrician.⁠¹

Read nextPicky eater or feeding problem?

What should a sensory-sensitive child wear for holiday events and Halloween?

Comfort first: let your child wear something familiar, and practice any new outfit at home before the day. Cut out tags, skip stiff collars and scratchy fabrics, and consider a festive top over soft everyday clothes.

For Halloween, the AAP suggests non-toxic makeup or a hat instead of a mask, testing makeup on a small patch of skin first, a costume and shoes that fit well and are labeled flame resistant, and earlier events that keep bedtime on track.⁠²³

How do you protect a child from holiday noise, fireworks and flashing lights?

Use hearing protection and distance for noise, and choose steady lights over flashing ones. A fireworks show averages 140 to 160 decibels, far above the 85 decibels at which long or repeated exposure can cause hearing loss.⁠⁹ Young children should wear earmuffs, teens can use earplugs, and noise-canceling headphones mean children do not turn music up to drown out the noise.⁠³

Flashing or patterned light can make anyone feel disoriented or unwell, and around 3% of people with epilepsy have photosensitive epilepsy, usually triggered at 3 to 30 flashes a second.⁠²⁴ Set decorations to a steady setting, and check that battery compartments in string lights, flameless candles and light-up ornaments are secured.⁠^24,25

Read nextAutism and loud noisesWhen loud noises are too much

How do you keep routines and sleep on track over winter break?

Keep wake-up time, meals and bedtime close to the school-day schedule, which the AAP recommends because routines give children a sense of stability.⁠⁸ Children aged 6 to 12 still need 9 to 12 hours of sleep and teens 8 to 10, and keeping the same wake time on weekdays and weekends and turning screens off an hour before bed protects it.⁠^26,27

Long winter days indoors pull toward screens. The AAP suggests a family media plan with tech-free times for school breaks, a jar of activity ideas for “I’m bored” moments, and sticking with the plan; children should still get at least 60 minutes of activity a day.⁠^28,29

Read nextWinter break routinesWhy routine matters

How do you help a child go back to school after winter break?

Start early: the AAP suggests moving bedtimes back a week or two before school starts, rehearsing the return, and asking an anxious child what they are worried about so you can solve it together.⁠⁶ A note to the teacher about how the break went, and a plan for movement breaks in the first days back, help a child who arrives already tired.

Read nextSensory and attention support at schoolMovement breaks

When is holiday stress a reason to call the doctor?

When the change lasts. A hard week is ordinary, but the AAP lists sleep problems, major changes in eating, and low moods lasting more than two weeks as reasons to talk to your pediatrician, and advises calling now rather than waiting until after the holidays.⁠¹

Which DrSensory guides cover each part of the holiday season?

From Halloween to the first week back at school, in the order the season brings them.

• Sensory-friendly Halloween

  October. Costumes, masks, darkness and doorbells, and the workarounds that help.

• Holiday gatherings and sensory overload

  November and December. A quiet space, noise and lights, visitors and leaving early.

• How to calm sensory overload

  November and December. What to do in the moment, and after.

• Meltdown or tantrum?

  November and December. How to tell them apart, and why they need different responses.

• Traveling with kids who find it hard

  November and December. What a trip asks of a child, and what helps on the way.

  From DrParenting
• Sensory toys and tools

  November and December. Gift ideas by the kind of input a child seeks or avoids.

  From DrParenting
• A calmer home

  December. A room-by-room checklist for a sensory-friendly home.

• Winter break routines

  December and January. Which routines to keep and how to show the plan.

• Back to school after the break

  January. Classroom supports for sensory and attention needs.

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Related on DrSensory

• Sensory processing

  Sensory differences and what helps.

• Autism

  The DrSensory guide to autism at every age.

• ADHD

  Signs, diagnosis and treatment of ADHD.

• Sensory overload in children

  Signs and strategies.

• Why routines are hard

  Daily routines and developmental differences.

• A sensory-friendly home

  The complete room-by-room guide.

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   “Choose the ones you can reasonably handle and decline the rest without guilt”; “Sticking to family routines can help you cultivate a sense of peace amid the holiday rush”; “Small anchors—like reading the same bedtime story or having a quick family check‑in —can reduce stress for everyone”; “The holiday hubbub can make a child's mood swings more intense”; toddlers “may experience meltdowns as missed naps and sugary snacks push them toward overstimulation”; “Sleep problems , major changes in eating habits , or low moods that persist for more than 2 weeks are legitimate concerns that your pediatrician can help with”; “Schedule a time to talk with them now, rather than waiting until after the holidays”.
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   From 972 articles, “28 focused intervention practices that met the criteria for evidence-based practice”, including visual supports (“A visual display that supports the learner engaging in a desired behavior or skills independent of additional prompts”; 65 articles), social narratives (“Interventions that describe social situations in order to highlight relevant features of a target behavior or skill and offer examples of appropriate responding”) and antecedent-based interventions (“Arrangement of events or circumstances that precede an activity or demand”).
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    “kids with ARFID eat very little or stick to only a few foods”; parents can “bring a substitute safe meal for the child to consume while at a holiday feast”; “skipping meals can increase anxiety”; for the relative who comments on weight, “Talk with the relative before the event”.
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    “A meltdown is an intense response to an overwhelming situation”; “A meltdown is not the same as a temper tantrum”; “Make space - try to create a quiet, safe space as best you can”; “turn off loud music and turn down bright lights”; bear in mind “they’ll need more time to respond than you might expect”; “staying calm yourself”.
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    “Headphones for electronic toys and games help keep things quiet”; “Giving your child a bottle or cup to sip on may help, especially during takeoff”; “the Federal Aviation Administration (FAA) recommends that parents reserve a separate seat for babies or toddlers”.
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    “Consider non-toxic makeup and decorative hats as safer alternatives to masks”; “Test makeup ahead of time on a small patch of your child's skin”; “Check that your child's costume and shoes fit well”; “Look for "flame resistant" on the costume labels”; “Earlier festivities help you stick to your child's regular bedtime”.
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    “Around 1 in 100 people has epilepsy and, of these people, around 3% have photosensitive epilepsy”; “Between 3-30 hertz (flashes per second) are the common rates to trigger seizures but this varies from person to person”; “Flashing or patterned effects can make people with or without epilepsy feel disorientated, uncomfortable or unwell”.
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    Recommended hours per 24 hours: ages 3 to 5, 10 to 13 including naps; “Children 6 to 12 years of age should sleep 9 to 12 hours per 24 hours”; “Teenagers 13 to 18 years of age should sleep 8 to 10 hours per 24 hours”.
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